Toxic bad mothers are a real thing. They exist, and they’re often worse mothers than you are. If you want to be one, it’s time to pay attention. Here’s why: Toxic mothers produce children who are more likely to exhibit harmful characteristics like anger and aggressive behavior. This can have dire consequences for your child’s development and future as well as your own personal well-being. In this guide, we aim to provide tips and advice on how to be a worse mother than you are—and help you avoid creating toxic bad moms in the first place.
Toxic bad mom quotes
“It’s not about being perfect, it’s about being a good person. Being someone you want to be is half the battle.
“The best way to prevent toxic stress from spreading is by setting boundaries and communicating clearly.
Dysfunctional parents do not apologise. It is one feature that the children of narcissists would instantly agree on. They will lie and justify themselves, but never accept they did anything wrong. ― Diana Macey
Family is supposed to be our safest haven. Very often, it’s the place we find the deepest heartache. — Lyanla Vansant
Getting angry when something about their behaviour is challenged in the nicest way, is a typical reaction of a narcissistic parent. ― Diana Macey
Growing up and trying to have your own values and personality is not received well, and the narcissistic parent will try to sabotage you any way they can. ― Diana Macey
How to tell if someone is not good for you? You being yourself feels like a betrayal. — Unknown
I was worthy of her love whether she gave it to me or not. Every child is worthy of love. ― Richard Paul Evans
If all toxic moms understood the difference between healthy motherly love and toxic destructive love, they wouldn’t be toxic in the first place. – Samuel Zulu
If someone gets angry at you for setting a boundary, consider that a good sign that the boundary was necessary. — Jenna Korf
If you have to parent your mother and put up with her childish and selfish behaviors, it may be time to create more serious boundaries for your own self-protection. — Barrie Davenport
In the academic literature, making children responsible for the emotional well-being of the parents was referred to as emotional incest. It is a heavy burden for young children because they do not even know how to look after their own emotions yet. ― Diana Macey
It made me feel responsible, as well as the usual ‘everything we do is for you.’ I felt bad they had to work so hard to buy food and clothes for me, and I felt I had to justify my existence and repay them somehow. ― Diana Macey
Just because someone gives you life doesn’t mean they will love you in the right way. — Unknown
My toxic mother can only intimidate me if I let her. While she’s busy trying to bully the child, the adult can reject her, ignore her, or report her to authorities. ― Rayne Wolf
Narcissist mothers teach their daughters that love is not unconditional and that it is given only when they behave by maternal expectations and whims. ― Dr. McBride
Narcissists don’t see their children as separate people that have a right to experience life from their own angle. There is no option in their heads in which the kids will be in charge of their own lives ‘unaided’ by the narcissist. … ― Diana Macey
Reasoning never works with narcissists. When caught in the game they get stroppy and angry. Their lack of emotional maturity and empathy is why narcissistic parents cannot respond to the emotional needs of their children. They are too busy trying to get the validation they need, and that consumes a lot of their energy and effort. ― Diana Macey
The silent treatment cannot be argued with, it’s based on emotions and not on logic. The line of communication is cut off, and it means the existence of the child can be reduced to nothing. ― Diana Macey
Sometimes you need to give up on people, not because you don’t care but because they don’t. — Unknown
The truth is that the happier and stronger you are, the more unhappy the narcissistic parent is because when you feel good they lose their grip over you, and the ability to shame you. ― Diana Macey
This is called crazy-making, and it is what narcissists do. They push to provoke bad feelings, and when they do and their victim reacts, they feel better. Somehow they transfer their state of mind onto their victims. ― Diana Macey
To have the children behave in a pleasing manner, the narcissistic mothers use conditional love and fear, sending the message the kids will be shunned and the love is taken away it they step out of line. ― Diana Macey
Toxic mothers always remain the strangest, craziest people we’ve ever met. ― Marguerite Duras
Toxic mothers plant seeds of guilt, low self-esteem, and low self-worth into their daughters which further manifests when those daughters get into their own relationships making them extremely needy or even toxic just like their own moms. – Anonymous
Very often, toxic moms will abandon their own children and find meaningless excuses to justify their deeds as to why they are not able to be there for their children. – Anonymous
What is Toxic Bad Mom?
Toxic bad moms are mothers who exhibit negative behaviors that can make their children feel uncomfortable and unsafe. Some common toxic bad mom behaviors include:
1) Making life difficult for their child by speaking in an aggressive or negative manner
2) Spanking or using physical punishment as a form of discipline
3) Bribery or corruption of authority figures
4) Refusing to vaccinate their children
5) Taking away access to important cultural activities or materials
6) Blaming the child’s problems on outside factors (e.g., the parents’ poor parenting skills, lack of financial resources, etc.)
7) Neglecting emotional and behavioral needs, such as providing adequate sleep, hugs, and support
Toxic Bad Mom: What You Don’t Do That Can Make You a Toxic Mom
Toxic bad moms who do not exhibit negative behaviors often do the following:
1) Leave their child alone at home for extended periods of time.
2) Use harsh words or fists when communicating with their children.
3) Not providing enough physical and emotional support while they are away from their child.
4) Continuously criticize, shame, and isolate their child from friends, family, and other people they care about.
5) Make decisions about their child’s health and safety without consulting with them.
6) Establish power struggles over important decision-making roles within the family.
7) Try to control or dominate their child through physical, emotional, or spiritual means.
What to Do if You Are a Toxic Bad Mom.
Toxic bad moms are often the worst role models for their children. They can be verbally and emotionally abusive to their children, and they are often unsupportive in their relationships with other family members. If you are a Toxic Bad Mom, here are some things to do:
• Make sure that you take care of yourself physically and mentally. Take regular breaks to relax and de-stress.
• Be obedient and friendly to your parents, even if they’re not always nice to you. They may have been raised by Toxic Bad Moms, so it’s important for them to have a good relationship with you as well.
• Avoid being critical of your parents or any other family members—this can only make them worse.
• Stay away from situations that will create tension or conflict between you and your parents. This could include fights over money, sleepovers at the house, or school problems.
• Appear in good light whenever possible (even if you don’t really enjoy it)—this will help put your parents in a good light instead of seeing them as toxic bad mothers who cannot be changed.
What to Do If You Are a Toxic Friend
Toxic friends are often difficult to work with but also very valuable people in their lives. If you are a Toxic Friend, here are some things to do:
• Make sure that you support your friend through difficult times—you may not know how much they need it!
• Be understanding and supportive when your friend is acting out generally or towards you specifically—it’s hard enough trying not to be a bad role model yourself!
• Appear in good light whenever possible (even if you don’t really enjoy it), this will help put your friend in a good light instead of seeing them as toxic friends who cannot be changed.
How to Be a Better Toxic Bad Mom.
Be mindful of the words you use to communicate with your child. For example, “I don’t like that you did that” or “That wasn’t very good of you.” Be more careful about how and when you say things to your child.
Be more supportive of your child
supporting your child means being there for them, whether it be physically, emotionally, or spiritually. You should also try to be more understanding and compassionate towards them. You may find it helpful to talk about their wrongdoings with them in a non-condescending way so that they can understand why you feel this way and can take responsibility for their actions.
Be more considerate of your own needs
It’s important that you take care of yourself first and foremost – if only because it will make it easier for you to take care of your children secondly. When it comes to parenting, there are a few key points to keep in mind: taking care of yourself first is Essential; always put your children first (even though they may not always appreciate it); never put anyone else above themselves, and be intentional about setting healthy boundaries ( boundaries which mean setting limits but also providing support).
Be more intentional about your parenting style
Another key point to remember is that parenting requires effort as well as patience – both of which can often wear thin during busy family schedules! As such, try to plan activities with enough time in between so that both parents have some downtime too!
If you are a toxic bad mom, you need to do something about it. Being more mindful of your words and actions, being more supportive of your child, and being more considerate of your own needs can help you be a better toxic bad mom. You can also try to be more intentional about your parenting style. By taking the time to be better than you are, you can make a positive impact on your children and yourself.